No one in this world can have it all, or be it all, but what we decide to do or miss on should be our choice & not that of the society’s.
For centuries men have dominated the very existence, like a little feminist in a viral video, recently pointed out, why are things either natural or man-made & why can’t they be natural or people made? There is no special day to respect & remind a woman who she is & how important she is. She knows her worth, her importance in this society, she is very well aware of herself, be it her dreams & responsibilities (mind it, not the ones that the society has forced on her). It is the world & the society who has to learn now, to respect her for who she is, what she feels & what she wants to be.
Both men & women were created equally, with their unique abilities. However, society has assigned its own gender roles. Why the need to generalize? For generations, we all have been gaslighted into believing & blindly following the typical gender norms. Anybody who believes they can perform a task should do it, it shouldn’t be preassumed that mechanical work can be done by a man only or household chores are a women’s work alone. I am not saying anyone is better or higher than anyone else, I believe we all are equal and unique. Don’t generalize. Don’t tell anyone what they can & cannot do, let them explore, let them find their strengths and their dreams.
While women across the world are being wished a happy women’s day today & being treated special or being respected for a single day, we are still unsafe, people still tell us what we should wear to not get raped, our dreams are still getting smashed by the patriarchy, we are still being harassed mentally as well as physically, a woman still has to hear the words “ you are in your mid 20’s now, get married” or “it been a while you guys have been married, why don’t you have kids?” or “what is the need to work after marriage, your husband earns enough to run the household, you need not go out and work”, “Just because you work or earn does not mean you can run from your household duties of cooking & cleaning.”, “We don’t hire a maid, the women of the house is supposed to cook for the family, we won’t eat food made by the hands of a maid”.
What is a Woman? She is warm, she is a caretaker, she is loving, she is an institution for procreating, she is a superwoman who juggles office work & homework flawlessly. She is a sister, she is a mother, she is a wife, she is a daughter. Right? These are just adjectives that are subjective to human behaviour & events of life.
No, she is not a superwoman, no she is not warm, no she is not a child-bearing machine. She is a Human. She is just as flawed, she has dreams, she has sexual urges, she may not want to procreate, she has a mind, she has a heart, she has her own voice, she should have her choice. She Is Just Like Any Other Human Being. Don’t tell her what to do, she is mature & sensible enough to make her own decisions.
“There is a special place in hell, for women who do not help another woman.”
The one thing that bothers me the most is a woman judging other women for the choice of her work, her clothes, her personality. Mostly women themselves are the torch bearers of patriarchy in the society, it’s a woman that defines other women’s worth, Stop Doing That! A housewife should be respected as a working woman, she also works round the clock. Similarly, a working woman should not be looked down upon for not being able to do their household work or the so-called household chores. Hats off to every woman in our lives, who has stood by us, cared for our dreams, taught us to speak our mind, inspired us to embrace our true selves.
Some men & also some women ( yeah, the ones with reserved seats in hell) are so offended by the word feminism that they have forgotten the actual meaning of it. Feminism is only asking for equality & freedom to take her own decisions. A safe haven, to live in & contribute to.